Don't do this in front of kids!

Things you should not do in front of your children!

It feels cool to be a parent, but it is never easy fulfilling the rules of parenting. Did you hear me, it is never easy I said. As a person, you are used to some stunt, but once you start answering that tittle ‘mum or dad’, you start respecting so many things either willingly or unwillingly for the sake of your children such as the followings:

1. Get drunk. Seems simple enough, right? But let’s just reinforce it for anyone who’s a little murky on the details. If there is a child under your care, you shouldn’t be getting hammered. And yes, this still applies even if the child is asleep.

2. Smoke cigarettes. If you want to give yourself lung cancer, that’s totally your decision. But no child should be subjected to secondhand smoke. That’s just cruel.

3. Curse. There’s a good chance that if you curse in front of your kids, they’ll curse, too. Some people think it’s cute when kids curse–I’m not one of them.

4. Act like a stripper. If your daughter sees you dropping it like it’s hot, be prepared for her to do the same. And in 12 years, when she’s 16, don’t be surprised if she comes home pregnant.

5. Watch reality TV, namely any reality TV show that has anything to do with being a wife and/or housewife. That includes all of the Real Housewives franchises, plus Basketball Wives, Big Brother show, etc. As if the prevalence with which they refer to each other as b*tches wasn’t bad enough, they fight like crazy.

6. Fight. Speaking of fighting, it’s not okay to get into a screaming match–and definitely not a physical altercation–in front of your kid. Your child should never have to calm you down or get in between you and another adult.

7. Drugs. And yes, even drug abuse. They’re illegal for a reason and your kid shouldn’t think it’s okay to do them.

8. Belittle, undermine or disrespect the other parent. Whether or not you get along with your child’s mom/dad doesn’t make it okay to jeopardize their relationship. If you have something negative to say, at least wait until the kid is out of earshot.

9. Lie. I know, every parent lies. Especially to his/her kids. But whenever possible, don’t lie to someone else in front of your kid. It will be pretty hard to teach your kid not to lie to you when they see you doing it to other people.

10. Put yourself down. Even if you’re not perfect (which, of course, all of us parents are…), your child looks up to you and it does no good for them to hear you say you’re not good enough or that you’re too this or that. Same goes for your kid–if you don’t have anything nice to say, make something up!

11. Hitting Each Other or Child. There are times when you might feel annoyed and pushed to your limit with your partner or child but hitting is never an option. Disciplining by hitting never works out and can cause an adverse effect in the long run. By hitting your partner or your child, you are sending the message that violence is the only manner through which conflicts can be resolved.
12. Yelling at Spouse or Child. Many people yell at their partners or children when they do something wrong, knowingly or unknowingly. One must always remember that raising one’s voice will make both, more aggressive and emotionally unstable, resulting in personal shaming and emotional withdrawal.
13. Criticizing Spouse or Family Members. This is one of the worst things you can do, both as a parent and a partner. Criticizing spouse or child in front of them is an example of emotional abuse and can have destructive effects on the growing child, especially his personality and psyche.
14. Showing Favouritism. Showing favouritism and praising one child excessively just to prove that another child is inferior is one of the worst parenting habits. Try praising your child honestly which can reduce insecurity and possible wear-tear in the relationship your children share..
15.  Bribing. Bribing can be a tempting method to change your child’s rogue behaviour but the effects are only short term. Bribing to a kid or in front of a kid retards their overall mental development and sends him a message that unfair means can help him survive in the world.

While taking care of your family and disciplining your child, always remember that some actions can have a long term effect on the health and development of your child and hence, should be avoided at all costs.

Did I miss anything? What things won’t you do in front of your kids? Share in the comments.

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